Yan Kong Lee, 48 was born to a small-time businessman and his rubber-tapping wife in the early 1960’s in a very small village in Kulai, Johor. At the age of nine, his father passed away and his rough village childhood became even harder. Making less than two ringgit a day, his mother struggled to feed and clothe her two children and herself and so two years later he moved to the small town of Kuala Terengganu with his grown-up half-sister. Now, more than thirty years later he has overcome the obstacles of his childhood and is making a fair living teaching English full time, and Taekwondo part time. This is the story that he always tells us, his children, whenever we complain about some minor, trivial displeasure we are facing; the moral of the story being, he had it much harder.
I chose to profile my father for this assignment because apart from the fact that I already knew parts of his stories well, he was also an outsider to Kuala Lumpur and yet throughout his life from his teens up till now, he has frequented KL and I felt that this sort of rather detached experiences of KL would be fascinating. He first came to Kuala Lumpur in 1976 for academic purposes; to interview at the Royal Military College to further his studies. In the subsequent years of the late 70’s and the early 80’s, he was to come to KL more and more frequently for he was then a star athlete in Taekwondo and was actively participating in tournaments throughout the country.
Though his interview at the RMC was not a success, he came to associate KL with the feeling of glory and victory for he was passionate and skilled about Taekwondo and most importantly, a success. He told me that every time he came to KL, he would come with “great excitement because there was a feeling that anything could happen”. I understood exactly what he meant because more than two decades after he first came to KL, I would be making my way here myself and seeing for the first time the endless rush of traffic and the massive amounts of people making their way briskly in and out of skyscraping buildings, you do feel excited; there is a possibility of anything happening. It must have been even more exciting then because KL in the 80’s was still a young city that was growing rapidly and the atmosphere must have been buzzing. My father brought me to the old Stadium Negara where many of the tournaments he participated in and won were held. It is easy to imagine my father as a young man in this stadium with all eyes on him and people cheering him on, an experience he said he would not likely find in the small town of Kuala Terengganu.
Later, when he began dating my mother, the both of them would come to KL for short trips of 2 or 3 days. During this period, my father thought of KL as the perfect place to just “get lost in the vastness” and to “get away from everything back home”. “Everything” referred to the disapproving parents of my mother and the gossip of their schoolmates. Here in the vast city, there was no need for curfews and secret hand-holding. They could be the giddy, young lovers that they were. He brought me to Sungei Wang because it was the place he and my mother came to most often during the early days of their relationship. It was “the shopping mall”, the place where “all the youngsters went to at that time”. Personally, I find the Sungei Wang of today a loud mix of the bold, the garish and the tacky but I can still see why people outside of KL would find it “very big-city, very KL”, especially back in the times of my parents when it was practically the only mall of its kind.
As an adult, my father parlayed his talent and passion in Taekwondo into a career by instructing children in schools around Terengganu and in his own martial arts center. By the late 1990’s, he has already had considerable success and was even appointed Secretary of the Malaysian Taekwondo Association (MTA) and Chairman of its juniors’ division. I remembered that we rarely saw him around the house because he was always so busy. If he wasn’t in Terengganu, he would fly down to KL for MTA affairs. However, the zest with which he regarded KL soon disappeared when Taekwondo took over his entire life. It was later replaced with disillusionment as he realized that it was getting increasingly political in MTA. Everyone was nice to your face but they all had a hidden agenda and wouldn’t think twice about double-crossing you. I asked him if he thought the heavy politicking he experienced in MTA is reflective of the overall politics of Malaysia today and he told me that “anytime there are positions of power involved here, there are bound to be shady people and dirty tricks. It is certainly not limited to KL, but you hear more such stories here because it is the administration central of the country.”
My father left before the disorganization and corruption at MTA turned it into a total mess and they have now been suspended by the Sports Ministry, replaced by the Malaysian Taekwondo Federation that came about a few years ago, of which he is a treasurer. He brought me to Bukit Jalil where their proceedings usually take place and where he can be found every 2 or 3 weeks. It was a place he used to detest as it represented to him the unrest that plagued him during his turbulent times in MTA. He still has his duties and Taekwondo is still a part of his life but it has taken a back seat. He is now concentrating his efforts on his schoolchildren and his tuition center. Every time he visits me in KL, he would tell me that he can never imagine living here. I asked him why and he told me he is already “much too used to the laid-back lifestyle” he and my mother enjoys in Kuala Terengganu and most importantly, he “absolutely can’t stand the traffic jams”.
I chose to profile my father for this assignment because apart from the fact that I already knew parts of his stories well, he was also an outsider to Kuala Lumpur and yet throughout his life from his teens up till now, he has frequented KL and I felt that this sort of rather detached experiences of KL would be fascinating. He first came to Kuala Lumpur in 1976 for academic purposes; to interview at the Royal Military College to further his studies. In the subsequent years of the late 70’s and the early 80’s, he was to come to KL more and more frequently for he was then a star athlete in Taekwondo and was actively participating in tournaments throughout the country.
Though his interview at the RMC was not a success, he came to associate KL with the feeling of glory and victory for he was passionate and skilled about Taekwondo and most importantly, a success. He told me that every time he came to KL, he would come with “great excitement because there was a feeling that anything could happen”. I understood exactly what he meant because more than two decades after he first came to KL, I would be making my way here myself and seeing for the first time the endless rush of traffic and the massive amounts of people making their way briskly in and out of skyscraping buildings, you do feel excited; there is a possibility of anything happening. It must have been even more exciting then because KL in the 80’s was still a young city that was growing rapidly and the atmosphere must have been buzzing. My father brought me to the old Stadium Negara where many of the tournaments he participated in and won were held. It is easy to imagine my father as a young man in this stadium with all eyes on him and people cheering him on, an experience he said he would not likely find in the small town of Kuala Terengganu.
Later, when he began dating my mother, the both of them would come to KL for short trips of 2 or 3 days. During this period, my father thought of KL as the perfect place to just “get lost in the vastness” and to “get away from everything back home”. “Everything” referred to the disapproving parents of my mother and the gossip of their schoolmates. Here in the vast city, there was no need for curfews and secret hand-holding. They could be the giddy, young lovers that they were. He brought me to Sungei Wang because it was the place he and my mother came to most often during the early days of their relationship. It was “the shopping mall”, the place where “all the youngsters went to at that time”. Personally, I find the Sungei Wang of today a loud mix of the bold, the garish and the tacky but I can still see why people outside of KL would find it “very big-city, very KL”, especially back in the times of my parents when it was practically the only mall of its kind.
As an adult, my father parlayed his talent and passion in Taekwondo into a career by instructing children in schools around Terengganu and in his own martial arts center. By the late 1990’s, he has already had considerable success and was even appointed Secretary of the Malaysian Taekwondo Association (MTA) and Chairman of its juniors’ division. I remembered that we rarely saw him around the house because he was always so busy. If he wasn’t in Terengganu, he would fly down to KL for MTA affairs. However, the zest with which he regarded KL soon disappeared when Taekwondo took over his entire life. It was later replaced with disillusionment as he realized that it was getting increasingly political in MTA. Everyone was nice to your face but they all had a hidden agenda and wouldn’t think twice about double-crossing you. I asked him if he thought the heavy politicking he experienced in MTA is reflective of the overall politics of Malaysia today and he told me that “anytime there are positions of power involved here, there are bound to be shady people and dirty tricks. It is certainly not limited to KL, but you hear more such stories here because it is the administration central of the country.”
My father left before the disorganization and corruption at MTA turned it into a total mess and they have now been suspended by the Sports Ministry, replaced by the Malaysian Taekwondo Federation that came about a few years ago, of which he is a treasurer. He brought me to Bukit Jalil where their proceedings usually take place and where he can be found every 2 or 3 weeks. It was a place he used to detest as it represented to him the unrest that plagued him during his turbulent times in MTA. He still has his duties and Taekwondo is still a part of his life but it has taken a back seat. He is now concentrating his efforts on his schoolchildren and his tuition center. Every time he visits me in KL, he would tell me that he can never imagine living here. I asked him why and he told me he is already “much too used to the laid-back lifestyle” he and my mother enjoys in Kuala Terengganu and most importantly, he “absolutely can’t stand the traffic jams”.